Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence. Monday 3rd of August 2015 Written by Manashantii Updated on Wednesday 8th August 2018

Self-esteem and self-confidence are psychotherapy phrases. In psychotherapy High Self-esteem is the ability to constantly love yourself, accept yourself and care for yourself regardless of what you experience and how others see you. In psychotherapy Low self-esteem is when you have low value of self, self hatred, negative self concept and low self love.

In psychotherapy, high self-esteem is the ability to possess unconditional positive regard of yourself. When you have high self-esteem you are motivated to care for yourself in a nurturing way or nurturing manner regardless of what happens in life. When you have high self-esteem you love yourself unconditionally, regardless of what happens to you experientially. Another meaning for high self-esteem is positive self Identity, positive self-worth, positive self-image, positive self-concept, self acceptance and unconditional self-love.

Christian worldview believes that it is important to reflect on God’s image of us. Self exaltation and vain arrogance is not high self esteem and is not in line with Christianity or the Holy Bible. Self value based upon your how much money you have saved, how attractive you are, the knowledge you possess or occupation and life achievements is pride and a false sense of worth. Lovers of self and self- worship is Idolatry. True Self concept comes from God. Focus on your identity with Jesus. Know and believe that your strength comes from the LORD, so trust in God. God is your refuge, take courage in God.

In psychotherapy, high Self-Confidence means you have faith in yourself. In Latin Con means With and Fide means Faith. When you are Confident you do things with faith.

Exercising faith during difficult life experiences increases your confidence, optimism and your sense of achievement. Humility allows you to grow Spiritually. It is also the ability to forgive yourself. In Christian theory when you have high self-esteem you acknowledge that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by an Awesome God and you know that you will always be praising Him, and have faith that you will be blessed. True Self-esteem is when your soul knows very well that the works and creations of God are marvelous.  Psalm 139. Psalm 139 v14 and Proverbs 14      Be humble and put your faith in God and exalt God not yourself. God is Holy and worthy of our praises. Put your faith in God, have confidence in God to help you with everything. God is wiser and stronger than you.

Excessive unrealistic false confidence is foolish illogical magical thinking which is entangled in false hope. Excessive self confidence can also be arrogance.

Christian self-esteem is much deeper than the psychiatric, psychology, psychotherapy or counselling viewpoint of self-esteem. As Christians we believe and accept that our sins are forgiven by God due to Jesus’s sacrificial death on the cross. Jesus’s death paid for all our sins because it was the perfect sacrifice, one sacrifice paid for all. We are forgiven and loved by God. We are blessed with spiritual blessings and also blessed and freed from all curses. We also rely on God’s Divine strength through the use of the Holy Bible and by relating to God in prayer; God will guide us.

True peace comes from God and high self esteem comes from a positive perception of God and understanding the true Spiritual image of God, by acknowledging and experiencing His qualities ; understanding God’s image of you, which will then become your self concept. God is a healer and a provider. God is also King of the universe, a Judge and Law-giver.  True Christian high self esteem is about your vision of your self and your image of God. Your Spiritual self esteem grows as you love God, love others and become reliant on God; tell the truth, have faith and trust in God. Trusting God’s love for you is self-esteem. God is compassionate, gracious and merciful. Glory be the name of the LORD.

When our self-esteem is low we may have low self worth and negative self concept; we may do things which affects us in a fatal way, our thinking and body image may also be negatively viewed by ourselves. Negative self concept means that we may not like physical things about ourselves like our hair, or body shape, or our face features for example. Self-hatred is anti-self. Negative self concept may also mean that we may not like the skills we possess or the skills we don’t have this as a result may affect our employment situation.

Your identity in Christ and an ongoing positive relationship with God increases your Spiritual growth. Self esteem explores your relationship with yourself and this world. Christian self esteem is about your relationship with the world, your relationship with yourself, your relationship with God and your future after this life. Having confidence in God is essential for your Spiritual growth. Build your your Spiritual self-esteem. Christian Confidence is developed in Jesus Christ; and confidence based on the Word of God, The Holy Bible.

The Holy Bible is full of blessings for the believer in Jesus Christ, there are over 600 blessings in the Holy Bible. The Christian is blessed when he reads, prays, practices and follows God. Rejoicing in your blessings and having true hope in God is the path to happiness.

The path of a good Christian is to practice humility, be obedient to God, be obedient to authorites, prioritising your love for God, loving and also forgiving others. Vanity is not self esteem.

Respecting yourself is important and giving respect to others also as this helps to build you up psychologically and Spiritually. As your self respect builds up you will become more assertive and also more loving towards others. Self respect and assertiveness helps you build up healthy boundaries with people and helps you to know what is acceptable behaviour towards you.

Seriously pursue God and your Spiritual self-esteem will grow. Submit your flesh, your Spiritual self is opposed to the flesh.

2 Timothy 3v1-7  1.This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2. For men (all humans) shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3. Without natural affection, truce-breakers, false accussers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4. Traitors, heady, high-minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;  5.Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. 6 For this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers(e) lusts, 7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.

2 Corinthians 12v9-10 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee : for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak then I am strong.

1 John 3v1 Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew Him not.

Jeremiah 29v11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

Romans 8v35-39  Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution or famine, or nakedness, or peril or sword? 36As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. 37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him that loved us. 38. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39. Nor height, nor depth, nor things to come,

John 3v16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosevwho believeth in Him should not perish,bu b have everlasting life.

Mark 12v30 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.

Psalm 139 especially Psalm 139v14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.