Ending a relationship. By Manashantii Tuesday 3rd September 2014. This is an incomplete article, please check back at a later date.

Letting go off an old relationship or an unhealthy relationship will free your heart and prepares you for a new relationship in the present moment. Let go with love. In The Holy Bible, Ephesians 4v15 says;- Always “speak truth in love.” Be patient and have faith that God will strengthen your soul and your heart. Let go off blame, guilt, shame and hatred. Love and forgiveness heals. Compassion for self and compassion for the other person involved helps you to let go off judgement. Have Faith, tell the truth and find the strength within to end the relationship. Tell him or her truthfully, firmly but lovingly that your relationship is to come to an end.

Talk about it with a friend or Pastor in church. Pray that the person that you are ending the relationship with finds peace with God. Pray that you end the relationship for the right reason(s). Ask God to guide you through this situation.

Say what you think and feel to a person, by starting a sentence with “I think….” or “I feel…”

The art of letting the past become history is a skill worth mastering.

In the Twi language which is a Ghanaian language the word for history is “Abakosem” this word consists of three words amalgamated into one:-

1. Aba means did come or has been and or once existed.

2. Ko from the word Eko means has gone and is finished or completed.

3. Sem from the word Asem which story or problem.

Abakosem means been and gone story or been and gone problem or past history.

In the Amharic language which is an Ethiopian language the word History means “Yedirotarik”. Yediro (means Past) Tarik (means History). Nisaha means Forgiveness in the Amharic language. To forgive is to make a painful thing become a past experience that you have let go off. Forgiveness is to let go off a past or historical experience.

Humility, Acceptance, Understanding, and Letting go off hurt feelings and letting go off the past can lead to Forgiveness. Ending relationships can be difficult if you find it difficult to assert yourself and also lack skills in drawing boundaries. The more passive you are the harder you will find it to end a relationship, however a passive temperament is a quality to be valued. (Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He shall lift you up. James 4v10)

It is a demonic thing to find your ultimate satisfaction in anyone or anything else but God, always put God first. Be in obedience with God’s will. Read the Holy Bible and Pray for wisdom from God. Pray for your the person in question and move on.

2 Corinthians 6v1414 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 

15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.

An ungodly soul-tie is a relationship where you have been sexual with someone in a non married relationship and or where you have been intimate with someone who is of a different religion to yourself and you are a Christian, this is called unequally yoked. When you are unequally yoked you form an ungodly soul-tie with the person you are not married to. An ungodly soul tie is very difficult to break from, but know that nothing is impossible with God.

Begin to deepen your relationship with The Trinity which is :- God The Father, Jesus The Divine Son Of God and The Holy Spirit. Thank God, Praise God and seek guidance from the Holy Bible. Pray against any Spirit that is distracting you or keeping you in bondage, pray also against any emotional stronghold and against any ungodly soul tie.

Once you have prayed against all this you must take action. Let go off the past, forgive and move on. God can fill the emptiness in your heart. Pray for God to show you that He is all that you need. Every time you think of your ex partner pray for him or her, pray for the ungodly soul tie between you and your ex-partner have to be separated in the spiritual realm.

Make your past relationship (an Abakosem) a been and gone story or problem which you no longer hold on to.

Relationships usually have soul ties. See my article on Ungodly soul ties  

The firmer your boundaries and self-esteem, the easier it will be to end a relationship. If you are co-dependent and or have attachment issues like an attachment disorder, the harder it will be to end a relationship.

Your heart and mind needs to let go off the relationship. Ask yourself  “Will I expose myself to that temptation ? Or will I obey God’s word? ” You must have a passion and desire to overcome temptation. Let go off reflecting on sentimental memories and let go with your heart, leave the past behind. Prioritise your spiritual relationship with God.

Sometimes there can be a confusion between protection and control in a relationship, learn to know the difference. It is important to trust the right person and maintain respect in a relationship.

Be truthful in all relationships, submitting, surrendering and trusting God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit to guide you. Seek Spiritual and relational balance. Have faith in God and take action to do brave things. Make courageous decisions and commit to your decisions. Motivate yourself through therapeutic writing or by talking to someone. Seek relationships which fulfill you Spiritually and psychologically. Pray and stay focused on your Spiritual growth and also trusting God’s wisdom.

Luke 9v62 And Jesus said unto him, ” No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back is fit for the kingdom of God.”

End the relationship, don’t look back and don’t go back ever again. Looking back can pull you back into sin; and into your past pattern. Turn to Jesus who is your High Priest, mediator and Servant-Leader. Keep looking forward never look back again. Looking forward spiritually separates you from the past and cuts ungodly soul ties. Let Godly Spirit dominate your flesh and emotions. Be Holy Spirit led.

Let go off memories, let go off relationships, let go off situations, and leave the people of the past behind whether they are good or bad if it keeps you in the past and stops you from moving forward into your future, especially Spiritually, leave it all behind; stop looking back and stop mourning over what you left behind or what you have lost. Focus on God’s word fearlessly and live righteously.

1 Corinthians 5v11  But now I have written to you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or a covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such one no not to eat.

1 Corinthians 10v21 Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord’s table, and the table of devils.

Psalm 119v63 I am a companion of all them that fear thee, and of them that keep thy precepts. The earth, O LORD, is full of thy mercy: teach me thy statues.

Proverbs 28v4 They that forsake the law praise the wicked: but such as keep the law contend with them.

Proverbs 28v7 Whoso  keepeth the law is a wise son: but he that is a companion of riotous men shameth his father.

Proverbs 3v5-7  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.6 In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

Psalm 111v10  The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do His commandments: His praise endureth forever.

1 John1v6  If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness we lie, and do not the truth:

Deuteronomy 22v10 Thou shalt not plow with an Ox and an ass together.

1 Corinthians 5v9 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:

Matthew6v24 No man can serve two masters : for either he will hate the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.

Matthew 7v21 Not everyone that saith unto me Lord Lord shall enter into the Kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.



Written By Manashantii