Ending A Relationship
Ending a relationship. By Manashantii Tuesday 3rd September 2014. This is an unfinished article please check at a later date for the completed article.
Letting go off an old relationship or an unhealthy relationship will free your heart and prepares you for a new relationship in the present moment. Let go with love. In The Holy Bible, Ephesians 4v15 says;- Always “speak truth in love.” Be patient and have faith that God will strengthen your soul and your heart. Let go off blame, guilt, shame and hatred. Love and forgiveness heals. Compassion for self and compassion for the other person involved helps you to let go off judgement. Have Faith, tell the truth and find the strength within to end the relationship. Tell him or her truthfully, firmly but lovingly that your relationship is to come to an end.
Talk about it with a friend or Pastor in church. Pray that the person that you are ending the relationship with finds peace with God. Pray that you end the relationship for the right reason(s). Ask God to guide you through this situation.
Say what you think and feel to a person, by starting a sentence with “I think….” or “I feel…”
The art of letting the past become history is a skill worth mastering.
In the Twi language which is a Ghanaian language the word for history is “Abakosem” this word consists of three words amalgamated into one:-
1. Aba means did come or has been and or once existed.
2. Ko from the word Eko means has gone and is finished or completed.
3. Sem from the word Asem which story or problem.
Abakosem means been and gone story or been and gone problem or past history.
In the Amharic language which is an Ethiopian language the word History means “Yedirotarik”. Yediro (means Past) Tarik (means History). Nisaha means Forgiveness in the Amharic language. To forgive is to make a painful thing become a past experience that you have let go off. Forgiveness is to let go off a past or historical experience.
Humility, Acceptance, Understanding, and Letting go off hurt feelings and letting go off the past can lead to Forgiveness. Ending relationships can be difficult if you find it difficult to assert yourself and also lack skills in drawing boundaries. The more passive you are the harder you will find it to end a relationship, however a passive temperament is a quality to be valued. (Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He shall lift you up. James 4v10)
It is a demonic thing to find your ultimate satisfaction in anyone or anything else but God, always put God first.
Read the Holy Bible and Pray for wisdom from God.
2 Corinthians 6v1414 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.
An ungodly soul-tie is a relationship where you have been sexual with someone in a non married relationship and or where you have been intimate with someone who is of a different religion to yourself and you are a Christian, this is called unequally yoked. When you are unequally yoked you form an ungodly soul-tie with the person you are not married to. An ungodly soul tie is very difficult to break from, but know that nothing is impossible with God.
Begin to deepen your relationship with The Trinity which is :- God The Father, Jesus The Divine Son Of God and The Holy Spirit. Thank God, Praise God and seek guidance from the Holy Bible. Pray against any Spirit that is distracting you or keeping you in bondage, pray also against any emotional stronghold and against any ungodly soul tie.
Once you have prayed against all this you must take action. Let go off the past, forgive and move on. God can fill the emptiness in your heart. Pray for God to show you that He is all that you need. Every time you think of your ex partner pray for him or her, pray for the ungodly soul tie between you and your ex-partner have to be separated.
Make your past relationship (an Abakosem) a been and gone story or problem which you no longer hold on to.
Relationships usually have soul ties. See my article on Ungodly soul ties
The firmer your boundaries and self-esteem, the easier it will be to end a relationship. If you are co-dependent and or have attachment issues like an attachment disorder the harder it will be to end a relationship.
Your heart and mind needs to let go off the relationship. Ask yourself “Will I expose myself to that temptation ? Or will I obey God’s word? ” You must have a passion and desire to overcome temptation. Let go off reflecting on sentimental memories and let go with your heart, leave the past behind. Prioritise your spiritual relationship with God.
Written By Manashantii