Love And Forgiveness. 29th May 2013. Written by Manashantii

These are my notes on “love and forgiveness” it follows no particular order, I hope you find it useful.

Avoid being so bitter that you loose your emotional balance. Bitterness can erase your choice to forgive.Talk to a  Christian friend or Pastor about your bitter feelings. Keeping bitter feelings secret makes it stronger. Emotions are decisions we have a choice.

It is normal to have ongoing emotions of unforgiveness and anger even after you have forgiven. Choose forgiveness even if circumstances are outside of your control. Make a commitment to grieve and to let go off the grief, let go off resentment and let go off judgement. Choose the path of the pacifist, love truly, true love keeps giving and forgiving peacefully.

Don’t let people’s thought and actions dictate your self worth. People don’t have to like the boundaries you set. Recognise your own need to be forgiven. Let go off negative thoughts and actions. When you choose to be angry, bitter, resentful, or hate, your feelings of love disappear.

“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” The Holy Bible, Matthew 6v14-15 English Standard Version

“ Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” The Holy Bible, Colossians 3v12-v13 English Standard Version

God and the Holy Bible see forgiveness as a necessity. Most Secular Psychotherapies label the forgiveness experience as abnormal. The only way to relieve yourself of guilt and shame is by forgiving yourself. Give up judgement, blame and expectation. Give up judging the person who wronged you and trying to understand why they did what they did. Look at your morals, values and the rules you set.

Change your perspective. Be solution focused. Explore the other person’s viewpoint. Conflict resolution. Your thoughts and judgements are the cause of what you are feeling.

Before you pray, always begin by thanking God, praise God. To receive grace you must first learn to be gracious. May we be like God who is full of grace.

“The word of God is more powerful and sharper than a two edged sword cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable.” The Holy Bible, Hebrews 4v12-v13 New Living Translation (Bible)

Submit to one another. Submit to your husband. Submit to your wife. Submit to God. Keep learning to submit to everyone and expect nothing in return. We are indebted to love everyone.Walk in love for your own benefit.You must not owe anyone love.

Serve God by loving people passionately. Remember the nature of God is Love. Walk in love for your own benefit. Increase your love and God will bless you greatly. Do not live in the flesh. The law of God will dissolve the flesh and circumcise the heart. Trust and depend on one another.

Manashantii